The subtitle for my new Men’s Book BACKBONE is “The Modern Man’s Ultimate Guide to Purpose, Passion, and Power“. The publishing world is a funny commercial entity. Every new book has to gave a snazzy title and subtitle. And if you don’t look deeper, you could make the mistake of reading my book title this way. After going around and around with my publisher, this final title and subtitle came to me as THE TITLE – when I finally wrote it the way it is now, I wasn’t open to any more discussion.
The book is like a course in book form to help men develop “backbone” – that uniquely masculine mix of energies that help a man hold his own on the journey of life and get and give the very best to their world. Men who lack backbone are disappointers. They disappoint their families, they disappoint their lovers. They disappoint history.
The subtitle is basically a sort of the book’s content in seed form. Let me sprout the seeds for you.
Modern Man – The modern man has lost his way. Modern women, by-and-large, have their shit together in ways that most men really don’t. They know who they want to be, and they have the resources to help them get there. (Whether they use the resources or not is another discussion.) Women have Oprah. Women have Deepak. Women have Soul Cycle and the 26,000 yoga and Pilates classes in America. The modern man – be he the typical urban soft intellectual male, the tough-guy insensitive male, the Jerry Seinfeld non-threatening loveable goof, the good-old couch potato, or some other variety – is mostly adrift when it comes to matters of the soul and important existential ideas. We have become impotent. We have lost our backbones. It’s not a matter of regaining dominance from women. The problem isn’t that women are now “wearing the pants” in our families and workplaces. The problem is that modern men have lost their pants. At the very least we are walking around with our fly down without good resources to help us get zipped up again.
Ultimate Guide – Means this guide has come at the end of an era, the end of a half-lived life. It is a guide to a whole new way of being.
Purpose – Men need purpose to be happy. They need to know their “big purpose” in life, and also need to have a strong vision so they can have a purpose for each day, each action. Men do well when they have a mission. Backbone helps them find their purpose and define their deep missions.
Passion – Passion is the zest of life. Men who lack passion are soul-killers. Dads, bosses, leaders who lack passion suck the life out of their families and their world. Men today need to find their passion and live their lives with that awesome power.
Power – All men need to be powerful in mind, body, and spirit. We need to have the power to create our lives and resist the bullshit of life. When we get clear about our vision for ourselves and our life, and free from our shortcomings, it’s time to get big, it’s time to harness as much power as we can to help us put our greatness into the world.
So this is what we’re trying to do with the humble offering of a very brazen book. You can get a copy for yourself or the men in your life here.