The subtitle for my new Men’s Book BACKBONE is “The Modern Man’s Ultimate Guide to Purpose, Passion, and Power“. The publishing world is a funny commercial entity. Every new book has to gave a snazzy title and subtitle. And if you don’t look deeper, you could make the mistake of reading my book title this way. After going around and around with my publisher, this final title and subtitle came to me as THE TITLE – when I finally wrote it the way it is now, I wasn’t open to any more discussion. The book is like a course in book form to help men develop “backbone” – that uniquely masculine mix of energies that help a man hold his own on the journey of life and get and give the very best to their world. Men who lack backbone are disappointers. They disappoint their families, they disappoint their lovers…. Read More
Time to Give a F*** about Fathers
Father’s Day is coming up. It’s one of those funny holidays. I guess we’re supposed to remember dads for everything they do. We give them a day, we take them out for lunch – whatever. In my mission to help men be happier healthier human beings, I especially have my sights set on fathers. Fatherhood is a deep thing. A father’s love and a father’s wisdom is so important for a family – and not just the kids. The whole family needs a strong, wise, awake father. But how do we fathers get there? I have to be honest, when I found out that I was going to be a father – especially the father to a son – I was scared shitless. My old man didn’t really teach me how to be a father. He was pretty checked-out, either drunk or at the office. And I didn’t really grow… Read More
5 Myths About the Inner Lives of Men
In my never-ending crusade to help my fellow men be happier and healthier human beings, I wanted to dispel the following myths. These are commonly held by men and women alike. They are most harmful when they are held by men who misunderstand themselves. So, have a look and comment wildly. I would love to hear pushback, additions, and any other thoughts you might have. Myth One: Men Are Shallow. Men are not shallow, and every man has an inner life. This myth comes about not because of an actual lack of depth among men, but because men sometimes ACT in shallow ways, or in ways that appear to be shallow. Everyone has a soul and men have very deep feelings, passions, hopes, dreams, fears and visions. Some men need to have the right kind of encouragement to share their depth. Some men need a little mentoring or training or… Read More
East Coast Men’s Weekend ~ June 13-15
It’s finally happening! After years of badgering and intimidation, Kripalu Center in Western Mass (where I have led meditation retreats for years) has agreed to host an event just for men. They said they really haven’t had “Men’s Events” since the days of Robert Bly. Personally, I’m stoked, but it is a challenge to get the word out about the event. Typically, Kripalu hosts spiritual retreats and yoga events. And typically, I do my men’s weekends at places like Menla that we rent out for our purposes. Kripalu is great because they provide the space, the registration, the accommodation, the food etc. Also, if men want to make it a bit more of a luxurious weekend, they can go to the sauna, book massages, and do that sort of thing. Anyway, you’ll be hearing more about it as it get’s closer to June, but for now I wanted to give… Read More
